It’s not hard to feel super bitter and cynical about life, in a day and age where people are becoming more greedy, more entitled, and take all the amazing technological advancements we have for granted. I LOATHE the smartphone zombies walking down the street, head down, never looking up as they are having useless text conversations with their friends about who’s fucking who, or even worse - instagraming a photo of what they just had for lunch - NO ONE FUCKING CARES! Sometimes I read some shit in the news, that just makes me sad and ashamed to be a human - like people tuning in to a live feed of someone trying to commit suicide, and ENCOURAGING them to do it, even offering “better” or more effective ways to do it. What the fuck is wrong with people? How have we become so disconnected with what it means to be human? How have we lost touch with the realization our contributions to society directly reflect the quality of our own life, as well as the community around us? Strengthening and bettering ourselves and helping the people around us do so too, ensure we all live the best life possible. Doesn’t that sound lovely? Wouldn’t you rather live in a world where people come to support you in a moment of darkness, instead of handing you a razor blade and telling you to cut deep? I know I do. Which is why the following, are just a few things I do to “be the change I want to see in the world”
1. Everyday on my walk to work, I try to say good morning to as many people as I can - especially old people, or parents with children walking to school. No one does that any more, we all act like strangers - It is quite scary to realize you live in a building with hundreds of people that you don’t even know. Proximity no longer means that you feel connected - distance is irrelevant. How many of you at one point or another, have been standing in a crowd of people, but never felt so alone?
2. I try to make a weekly quota of giving out 10 compliments to other women. Women (for the most part) treat other women horribly. They back-stab each other, and are generally nasty to each other for numerous reasons. Being one myself, I know how women often spend a lot of time on an aspect of their appearance - so I try to notice that one thing, and compliment them on it. I find it sad, how surprised they often are when I tell them I like their hair, or love their nail polish color. Seems like they are compliment deprived.
3. AND my favorite contribution - giving out anonymous advice and encouragement on the quiet place project website. At first, I was reading through all these anonymous posts and dismissed them all as whiny, attention seeking teens and tweens - but then I remembered that I used to be one myself, and remember how it seemed like everything I felt as a teenager was way more intense than It might have been. It is scary how many young peoples posts I read, posts that people post anonymously to “äsk for comfort” that describe their frustration, and hopelessness with their life - many of them detailing their addictions with cutting themselves, or their social anxiety, or pressure from their family. Most of these posts I read, and can relate to, so I make an effort to log on once in a while, and just randomly offer words of kindness and encouragement, and promise them that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Often, they comment back, saying thank you for your words, and it kind of feels good to know you might have made a difference in someones life - that you can reach out and give that person hope, and the feeling that someone out there cares about them, or at the very least, is listening to them.
God dammit is this ever depressing #shitidontwannathinkabout #livefastdieyoung
I should first explain that when I say I “I will never” I mean that I choose not to, not that I am not capable of doing it.
For most people, I think this is absolutely the most horrible advice you could them.
I sometimes DJ on the weekends, and LOVE doing it - people often ask me why I don’t do it as a full time job, and here is why:
For me, DJing is an escape, an experience where I get to share the all the music I discover, and love the most, and share it with a room full of strangers who (have so far) been really responsive to my sets, and have come up to me and said wonderful, lovely things at the end of the night. I love seeing a room full of people having a good time, and I think it’s pretty powerful that I can ultimately control the mood over the duration of the night. I love DJing SO much…… which is exactly the reason, I would never make it in to a career.
For me, it’s a choice, I can choose to play on the weekends, or I can choose to stay home and chill. I work full time, and fortunately love my day job too, but the pressure to pay my bills and keep the heat on relies solely on maintaining the work at my day job. I can’t imagine loving to DJ any more, if it became something I HAD to do. It would suck all the love out of it. Much like relationships, the most love comes from the ones where you feel like you WANT to be in them, not HAVE to be.
Sometimes it can be a good thing to make your life’s love in to a career - but sometimes not, so be careful when offering advice to such a broad audience.